One of the most painful problems you will have to cope with after a relationship is how you can communicate with your Ex partner. You probably have a thousand things you need to clarify together and you feel you won’t rest easy before you get some answers. You almost certainly spend most of your time ruling and over situations and problems in your mind; this is an incessant babble that is driving you insane. You will have discussed it at length with your family and friends and still you haven’t any answers. What should you do? Surely your boyfriend or girlfriend is the only individual who can help you?
The truth is that if you feel by doing this more than likely your boyfriend or girlfriend made the decision to depart and they have all of the answers they require. It will have been a hard decision for them to make and they will have considered it long and hard before letting you go. Because they made the decision they have the power in cases like this and therefore don’t feel the pain you’re feeling. Depending on how strong their character is that they may or may not talk to you but regardless there is very little benefit for you in what they need to say. They merely have two choices; to tell the truth and hurt your emotions or tell lies and provide you with false hope. “I still adore you and will continually be here for you” is normal of what you will be told, “It’s not you, it’s me I simply need some space” yea yea!
If this is what you are hearing do your self a big favour and choose to move on. Still do it now and regain control of your own destiny. I’m serious, choose to now, it will empower you and also quickly stop this debilitating state you are in. The only thing you have to fear is fear it’s self; anxiety about the unknown is what is causing you much of your pain. Whenever you were a young child the unknown excited you; what’s in here? Exactly what does this do? What does that taste like? What goes on if I do that? Get excited about the unknown have plans and start living again.
Yes I understand it’s all easier said that done but ultimately setting your self free by moving forward is what you’ll do. That is unless you intend spending the rest of your life feeling the way you do at this time. Remember this is not a practice run, this is your life.